30 Sep · Kamini Lakhani · 4 Comments
How to Understand Your Autistic Child’s ‘Resistance’
I had an unfortunate ‘fall’ last month.Stepping out for a walk post 8 pm on a rainy evening, wasn’t a great idea, I guess. I didn’t notice the pothole in front of me.Stepping into it, I lost balance and landed on all fours. Luckily, help was close by. A watchman of the adjacent building came…
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3 Sep · Kamini Lakhani · 2 Comments
How You Could be Coming in the Way of Your Child’s Thinking
I watched in rapt attention as the boy sorted and put away vegetables.He came to the final task of putting away curry leaves in a little steel container with holes. He struggled to clean the curry leaves. I could see his brain ticking away, as he picked up a pair of scissors to cut the…
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16 Aug · Kamini Lakhani · 14 Comments
How Working Through This Potent Technique Will Lead To Independence In Your Child’s Life
I watched this young mother work with her child.Every time the child moved her hand to point to an incorrect picture, the mother stopped her in her tracks.“No, try again.” I could see and feel the anxiety mounting in the little girl. She started to flap her hands. Again I heard the mother saying, “hands…
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22 Jul · Kamini Lakhani · No Comments
How To Transform Your Interactions With Your Child: From Task Focus to Trust
I saw her struggling with her daughter to finish the activity. She insisted that her daughter fold clothes. But resistance marked the activity. I saw the little girl darting glances at her mother. She seemed to be doing an assessment of her mother’s emotional state! They fed into each other’s anxiety. In the end, the…
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14 Jun · Kamini Lakhani · 2 Comments
How to Support your Child, Not on the Spectrum
A second pair of eyes watched you and all your actions carefully. You may not have noticed these eyes observing you as you were fully engrossed in your child on the spectrum or the one with the difficulty. But I noticed these beautiful eyes looking at you when you were unaware. She…
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